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Noun 1. disrespect - an expression of lack of respect
Verb 1. disrespect - show a lack of respect for

What do you do if you feel like you are being disrespected? Do you get mad and keep it to yourself? Or do you stand your ground and let the person/people know how you are feeling?

I have choose to “learn from the situation!” I have noticed that this is going to happen and I can either put the energy into it or I can place the energy somewhere more productive! I know that I’m going to get disrespect from all over, this is the world that we live in, but I also know that I have the power to let it effect me in a positive or negative way.

When I am disrespected by someone I will remind myself that if I become offended or feel disrespected then it is only my ego that is offended/feeling disrespected.

Depending on the type of situation, this can be easy or difficult so I have begun to develop an awareness and catch myself if I become offended and bring myself back from that negative place. I will see it as a matter of practice as it is a skill that needs developement.

I will keep my heart open and smile (”the kill them with kindness”) therefore changing the energetic dynamic within myself and hopefully into the situation. I am the one who holds the power and I can turn it round into a positive and productive situation.

However, I am still human and sometimes I succumb to the common failures, but through developing an awareness off my reaction to such energy it is becoming less of a personal issue and more of an opportunity to practice, develop, grow and enrich both myself and my “offenders!”

So if you feel you have to disrespect me and my loved ones, do what you feel is necessary just know that I am above it all. . . Maybe one day, when you are above it all, you can meet me in the clouds!

So as I was flipping through the channels I came across E and those shows (True Holloywood Story) where they highlight a Movie Star etc. and it was Will Smith. They highlighted his career and it made me remember him from Fresh Prince and wow has he come a looooonnnnggggg way!!!!!!!
He has turned himself into a HUGE STAR, from music to sitcoms to mega movies he has been able to withstand the test of time! No matter what movie he has taken he has been able to portray the role and draw you into watch and stand in line at the movie theaters opening week! I remember him saying ‘Thank You, I can’t believe so many people came out to watch me on the screen for 2 hours while I talk to myself’ at the MTV Awards as he won an award for “I Am Legend.” I thought to myself wow he was on screen for 2 hours talking to himself and I liked the movie, ha ha! You have arrived when we don’t mind watching only you on the screen…. So congrats Will!

He has an amazing family, a great career and an open marriage (lol) who can ask for anything more?

Check him out on Wikipedia!

A little late but Bravo aired a preview episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta. Atlanta house wives are made up of a mostly African American cast, the show focuses on the gated-community set of the South’s high society. Kim, clearly stands out from the pack, not only is she the only white woman but she’s a single mom with two young girls and a boyfriend named “Big Papa” (who doesn’t ever want to be seen in public and bought her fully-loaded Escalade on the premiere). She stated that if she died at least it would be in Dior, lol!
Here’s how they introduce themselves in the credits:

“If it doesn’t make me money, I don’t do it,” Lisa said.

“I always knew I was destined for greatness,” DeShawn said.

“I don’t keep up with the Jones. I am the Jones,” NeNe said.

“In Atlanta, money and class do give you power,” Kim said.

“People are intimdated by my success,” Sheree said.
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The word “Casanova” evolved from an Italian womanizer who had over a hundred one night stands. Casanova was a lady killer from Venice; he would wine and dine women, charm them, make them feel beautiful and irresistible, take them to bed, and … move on to the next woman the next day.
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Marriage is a sacred union between a loving couple until death do them part! Well so that’s what I thought. . .yet, in the Hollywood it seems that most marriages end before the honeymoon does, lol.

The probability of a celebrity marriage surviving is only 35%, according to Enotalone.com. For the most part, celebrity marriages do not have the fairy tale or “movie ending” fans hope they will. Rates of divorce may seem higher in Hollywood than they actually are due to the heavy publicity they receive. It is more likely that you heard about Robin Wright Penn and Sean Penn’s split (after 11 years of marriage) rather than your neighbor’s divorce.

Hollywood may even hold the record for the shortest marriages in history, or annulments for that matter. Nicky Hilton and Todd Meister were married for only three months, Renee Zellweger and Kenny Chesney were married for 128 days, Pamela Anderson and Rick Salomon lasted two months, and Britney Spears and Jason Alexander take the “wedding” cake for a marriage lasting only 55 hours.

Some surprising Hollywood divorces include Bruce Willis and Demi Moore in 2000 after 13 years (I was a fan of their marriage :-(, Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise’s 2001 split after 11 of marriage, Eddie Murphy and Nicole Mitchell’s 2006 divorce after 13 years of marriage, and Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe’s divorce in 2007 after eight years of marriage. Who saw those coming?

But why do most Hollywood marriages end in divorce? Is it the overexposure in the media, or are celebrity marriages a power statement like when the two most popular high school students date? Marriage requires work, which can be hard if you are never together.

Some celebrity couples fall in love while they are filming a movie and can’t decipher the difference between lust and true love. If they are playing a married couple in a movie and they do it so convincingly, why not do it for real? lol! It has to work out as it did in the movie, right? Not so much. If Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams couldn’t make their relationship work after “The Notebook”, then what makes Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughn, think their relationship would last?!

There is always someone hotter, younger and more tempting in Hollywood that may distract stars from their marriages. There has to some major factor that is tearing these Hollywood couples apart! Maybe their expectations are too high. Is being married to Brad Pitt or Tom Cruise, or for the men Halle Berry or Tracey Edmonds not all it is cracked up to be? I wonder!

Then there are some Hollywood couples who simply follow trends and if it is trendy to get married they’ll jump right on that bus with no sight of consequence ahead. And why not with divorce so easily accessible then what are the consequences (”I have money and fame who doesn’t want to be with me,” do you think that this could possibly be a thought in their head?) It may be stereotypical, but celebrities are generally narcissistic (Imagine that). When two rich and famous egos get together who humbles themselves to whom; I wonder do they ever argue about how the bills are going to get paid?

But for every divorce, there are a handful of Hollywood couples that seem to make against all odds. Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward have been married for 50 years, Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman have been married for 26 years, Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson are still in love after 19 years, and Melanie Griffith and Antonio Banderas for 11 years.

Also still in marital bliss, John Travolta and Kelly Preston for 16 years, Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick for 19 years, Michael J. Fox and Tracy Pollan also for 19 years, Denzel Washington and his wife Paulette for 24 years, Mel Gibson and his wife Robyn for 27 years, Patrick Swayze and Lisa Niemi for 33 years, and Bill Cosby and his wife Camille for 44 years.

I guess there is a happy ending after all. . . What do you think?

Self Explanatory~

The other night ended up being a ‘girls night’ as it must of been a dedication to every love movie Sanaa Lathan has made; first up “Something New” and then “The Best Man.” As we sat there watching we noticed that in the first movie they were in the bedroom with seemed like a million candles lit and he was painting her toe nails and in the second they were in the tub, rose petals filled their bath, candles were lit as well and it seemed like the ‘Quiet Storm’ was playing in the background!?

Where did these days go? Or are they still there and me and my girls are missing it? Or is this just what goes on in the ‘movies’? We hear “you watch to much t.v” a lot but is it wrong to expect to have ’some romance’ in our lives?

“Love Jones” they had a ‘hot topic’ about romance and the verdict Darius Lovehall (aka Larenz Tate), came up with:

“ROMANCE…is about the possibility of the thing. From the time when you first meet some fine ass woman… To the time you make love to her. From the time you first propose to her. To the time you say I do. When people who have been together for a long time say that the romance is dead….nuh uh……they just EXHAUSTED THE POSSIBILITIES!”

Girls want to control the man in their life.
Grown women know that if he’s truly hers , he doesn’t need controlling.

Girls check you for not calling them.
Grown women are too busy to realize you hadn’t.

Girls are afraid to be alone.
Grown women revel in it using it as a time for personal growth.

Girls ignore the good guys.
Grown women ignore the bad guys.

Girls make you come home.
Grown women make you want to come home.

Girls leave their schedule wide-open and wait for a guy to call and make plans.
Grown women make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits.

Girls worry about not being pretty and/or good enough for their man.
Grown women know that they are pretty and/or good enough for any man.

Girls try to monopolize all their man’s time (i.e., don’t want him hanging with his friend s).
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